Life

Today, we had a very interesting discussion at the Sunday dialogue at Model Town. One of the key questions we discussed was: "Why do some people stay more aware than others?" There were so many different perspectives. The discussion started with knowledge. A friend said that if we keep gathering knowledge from different sources, we tend to remain more open. Another friend challenged that claim, arguing that all knowledge exists in the domain of the past, and therefore, awareness seems quite different from knowledge. We discussed whether one can ever express one's awareness. It appeared to most of us that no one can express "what he is aware of" to others because the moment "thoughts" interfere, that "awareness" disappears.  One question that stayed with me even after discussions is why some people stay more aware than others. Why are so many people "fixated" on their viewpoint? I feel that there are varied reasons for the same. Howe...

 Yesterday, while watching the new series "Samkalp", I recalled the following lines from the famous bhajan "Damru wale baba" मन ही है बेकार में जो संकल्प-विकल्प बनाता है जिधर चाहता है मन उधर ये प्राणी दौड़ के जाता है मन सब को भटकाये जग में क्या नर और क्या नारी.... डमरू वाले... डमरू वाले बाबा तेरी लीला है न्यारी..... The hero of the net series is Maat Sahab, who gets humiliated in a university election and makes a samkalp to take revenge on the people in power in Delhi. To achieve this target, he establishes a gurukul and selects the best students there. He gives them a good education so that they clear the civil services examination, and then uses his entire network of civil servants against his opponent. In the process, he abets many crimes, including murders and also anti-national activities. All of us take many samkalps. The story "Damru wale baba" is a mythological tale in which Parvati visits Lakshmi at her home. Lakshmi humiliates her for not having ...

Life is fun. It's all about good food, a nice home to live in, dining out with friends and family, pleasure trips, and chit-chat with the people we like. Basically, it's all about fun. That seems so nice and simple. But the moment we think about these things, immediately our minds become full of fear and apprehension. Apprehensions about the future. Will we be able to get all these things in the future? Will our children be able to get all these things in the future? Since we need money to get most of these things, we feel like earning and saving money for the future, and we end up in a trap. Some "smart" people have learned the art of living in the present moment. They feel like enjoying themselves whenever all these things are available without thinking of the future. They will not mind even borrowing money to have fun.  Why do people who have had a lot of fun in their lives suffer miserably? If somebody had fun for 40 years of his life, he should be happy for the r...

If you feel that life is unfair to you, just imagine Bharata's plight. Bharata is out for a pleasure trip to his Nanihal, and Kaikeyi asks for two boons from Dashratha. Bharata not only loses the company of his dear brother for 14 years but also feels guilty for a crime he was never a party to. For the next 14 years, he repents for a fault that he never committed. It is because his mother, Kaikeyi, lost awareness for a few moments. Greed and ignorance took over her existence for some time. What she thought was the greatest welfare for her son turned out to be the greatest punishment for him. Where did Kaikeyi go wrong? She did not understand that each human being is different. She thought that material possessions and rulership are very important in life, and his son will be deprived of these because Ram is the elder son. She never realised that her son was quite different from others. She did not realise what mattered to her son. Probably, she never connected with her son that dee...

 रामायण भगवान राम की कहानी है। यह उस युद्ध की कहानी है जो राम ने धर्म के लिए लड़ा था। यह सबसे कठिन परिस्थितियों में भी राम के धैर्य और समभाव की कहानी है। जब उन्हें अचानक, अयोध्या के राजा के रूप में राज्याभिषेक होने से ठीक एक दिन पहले, जंगल जाने के लिए कहा जाता है, तब भी उनके चेहरे पर ज़रा भी चिंता या बेचैनी नहीं दिखाई देती। यह एक या दो दिन के लिए नहीं, बल्कि पूरे 14 वर्षों के लिए था। यह प्रेम और मित्रता की कहानी है। राम की हनुमान, सुग्रीव और विभीषण के साथ मित्रता की कहानी। यह भाइयों के बीच प्रेम की कहानी है। लक्ष्मण अपनी नवविवाहित पत्नी उर्मिला को छोड़कर, खुशी-खुशी राम के साथ जंगल चले जाते हैं। भरत राज्य पर एक कार्यवाहक (caretaker) के रूप में शासन करते हैं। हालाँकि, रामायण की कहानी में एक बहुत ही महत्वपूर्ण छिपा हुआ सबक है जो आज के आधुनिक संसार के लिए अत्यंत प्रासंगिक है। असल में, रामायण माता सीता की कहानी है। जब राम ने अपने पिता के वचनों का मान रखने के लिए जंगल जाने का निर्णय लिया, तब सीता महल में ही रुक सकती थीं और वहाँ के समस्त सुख-सुविधाओं का आनंद ले सकती थीं। लेकिन उन्होंने रा...

Ramayana is the story of Lord Rama . The battle fought by Rama for dharma . The equanimity of Rama even in the most difficult situations. He will not have even the slightest of worry or angst on his face when he is asked to go to the forest all of a sudden, just a day before he is to be coronated as the king of Ayodhya . Not for one or two days, but for 14 years. It's a story of love and friendship. Rama's friendship with Hanumana , Sugriva , and Vibhishana . It's a story of love among brothers. Lakshmana would go willingly with Rama to the forest, leaving her newly wedded wife, Urmila . Bharata will rule the kingdom as a caretaker. However, the story of the Ramayana has a very significant hidden lesson that's highly relevant to the present-day world. Ramayana is actually the story of Mata Sita . When Rama decided to go to the forest to honour the words of his father, Sita could have stayed back in the palace among all the comforts of the palace. She decided to go wit...

In relationships, we have two opposing thoughts: possession and exploration . The feeling of possession is based on the meaning we assign to the relationship, based on our past experiences. On the other hand, exploration is entirely in the domain of the unknown. For example, since childhood, we have been told about marriage . We see so many couples living together. We develop a meaning of marriage. We may feel that marriage is all about living together, taking care of each other, helping each other when we fall sick, going to social functions together, having meals together with a chat, travelling together, and so on. Our minds are " meaning-making machines ", and we make such meaning of marriage. If we have a very strong view of marriage, based on our past experiences, we will become possessive of it. Any deviation from that meaning would be painful. On the other hand, when we marry, we want to explore each other and also to explore together. This exploration will be comple...

Children are very inquisitive and quite open. However, their openness soon disappears because they are made to feel safe within the four corners of the beliefs held by their society's members. They should not enquire about the meaning of life and death, and should accept whatever their society generally believes. Most children also choose safety and security over enquiry. They find it safer and easier to accept these widely held beliefs and "settle" for a meaning of life that is confined to getting a good job, having kids, buying a home, saving for the future, settling the children and then waiting to die. In the meantime, a few spikes of pleasure, here and there. What is the alternative way of living? A life full of passion and exploration. Living like a scientist who passionately explores the hidden secrets of life, an engineer who builds with passion as if giving shape to his imagination, a doctor trying to solve the puzzle about the human body every time he treats a p...

  कबीर यह संसार है, जैसा सेमल फूल, दिन दस के ब्योहार में झूठे रंग न भूल It's "Semal" flower season. These flowers look very attractive from a distance. However, they last for very few days. Kabira says that the same applies to our materialistic pursuits . Our achievements and possessions do not keep us happy for long. It's not just a theory. All of us have experienced this in our lives. How many days does the happiness of getting good marks in the class last? What about the happiness of getting a job? Does it last for more than a few days? What about marriage, home, and car? Does it last for more than a few days? No. All of us know this, and yet we keep setting targets . One after the other. We wish for so many things we do not have, depending upon our circumstances. We continue to make efforts for the same. People toil day and night to get their desired colleges, degrees, jobs, properties, cars, and "settle" their children. They do all these things, and th...

 महाभारत में एक बहुत ही सुंदर कहानी है। मैं जितना ज़्यादा इसके बारे में सोचता हूँ, उतना ही मुझे लगता है कि यह कहानी प्रतीकात्मक है। राजा विचित्रवीर्य का विवाह अंबिका और अंबालिका से हुआ था। उनके कोई संतान नहीं थी। उनकी माता, सत्यवती को लगा कि व्यास को नियोग विधि से अंबिका और अंबालिका को संतान का आशीर्वाद देना चाहिए। व्यास, माता सत्यवती और ऋषि पराशर के पुत्र थे। व्यास ही वह व्यक्ति हैं जो पूरे महाकाव्य, महाभारत को लिख रहे हैं। जब अंबिका व्यास से मिलती हैं, तो वह डर के मारे अपनी आँखें बंद कर लेती हैं, और इसी कारण वह नेत्रहीन धृतराष्ट्र को जन्म देती हैं। जब अंबालिका व्यास से मिलती हैं, तो उनका चेहरा पीला पड़ जाता है, और तब वह पांडु को जन्म देती हैं, जो जन्म से ही काफी कमज़ोर थे। माता सत्यवती ज़ोर देती हैं कि अंबिका एक बार फिर व्यास से मिलें, लेकिन अंबिका डर के मारे अपनी दासी को भेज देती हैं; और वह दासी विदुर को जन्म देती है। मुझे लगता है कि यह कहानी काफी प्रतीकात्मक है, और इसका असली अर्थ आज की दुनिया में सबसे ज़्यादा प्रासंगिक है। व्यास चेतना का प्रतिनिधित्व करते हैं। वह एक जाग्रत आत्म...

The Mahabharata has a very beautiful story. The more I think about it, the more I feel the story is symbolic. King Vichitravirya is married to Ambika and Ambalika. He doesn't have children. His mother, Satyavati, feels that Vyasa should bless Ambika and Ambalika with children through Niyoga . Vyasa is the son of Mother Satyavati and Rishi Parashara. Vayasa is the person who is writing the entire epic, the Mahabharata. When Ambika meets Vyasa, she closes her eyes out of fear, and that's why she gives birth to blind Dhritrastra . When Ambalika meets Vyasa, she turns pale, and that's when she gives birth to Pandu , who is quite weak since birth. Mother Satyavati insists that Ambika meet Vyasa one more time, and she sends her maid out of fear; the maid gives birth to Vidura . I feel that the story is quite symbolic, and its true meaning is most relevant in today's world. Vyasa represents the consciousness . He is an aware soul, son of Rishi Parashara, and that's why h...

Dhritrastra is a character in the Mahabharata who is most relevant in today's world. Dhritrastra did not have eyes. I feel that "blindness" is quite symbolic. If someone lacks awareness of the truth, he is as good as being blind. Despite being "unaware", Dhritrastra was always "sure" that he had been victimised. That's why he wanted his son Duryodhana to become the king of Hastinapur. That's why, consciously as well as unconsciously, he made a monster out of Duryodhana.  The combo of "absence of awareness" and "being sure" is quite dangerous. When we are sure of something, we become adamant. We close ourselves. We become more and more sure of whatever belief we hold on to. Dhritrastra was sure that the action of making Pandu the king was not justified. He became king very soon, but the sense of injustice continued. When we are not aware, we make a mental story and live by it. The problem with all the mental stories is tha...

  Some basic questions are emerging in my mind. When a child is born into a family, the parents, consciously and unconsciously, pass on their fears and insecurities to the child. They also pass on their ambitions and greed to the child. The type of food he will eat and the basic ingredients of his mindset are also passed on to him. Does that child have any choice? If he is born into a Hindu family, he will follow the Hindu religion; if into a Muslim family, he will naturally follow the Muslim religion. If he is born in a vegetarian family, he will eat vegetarian food; if born in a non-vegetarian family, he will eat non-vegetarian food. If the parents consider money the fulcrum of life, he will study hard to get a job or start a business. If parents feel he should marry to continue their lineage, he will naturally marry. I mean to ask where the scope for independent examination is? Since childhood, the child's mind has been conditioned. How will the parents, who have themselves ne...

 मेरे मन में कुछ बुनियादी सवाल उठ रहे हैं। जब किसी परिवार में कोई बच्चा पैदा होता है, तो माता-पिता, जाने-अनजाने में, अपने डर और असुरक्षाओं को उस बच्चे में उतार देते हैं। वे अपनी महत्वाकांक्षाएँ और लालच भी उस बच्चे को दे देते हैं। वह किस तरह का खाना खाएगा और उसकी सोच के बुनियादी तत्व क्या होंगे, ये सब भी उसे माता-पिता से ही मिलते हैं। क्या उस बच्चे के पास कोई विकल्प होता है? अगर वह किसी हिंदू परिवार में पैदा होता है, तो वह हिंदू धर्म का पालन करेगा; अगर किसी मुस्लिम परिवार में पैदा होता है, तो स्वाभाविक रूप से मुस्लिम धर्म का पालन करेगा। अगर वह शाकाहारी परिवार में पैदा होता है, तो शाकाहारी खाना खाएगा; अगर मांसाहारी परिवार में पैदा होता है, तो मांसाहारी खाना खाएगा। अगर माता-पिता पैसे को ही जीवन का केंद्र मानते हैं, तो वह नौकरी पाने या कोई व्यवसाय शुरू करने के लिए खूब पढ़ाई करेगा। अगर माता-पिता को लगता है कि अपनी वंश-परंपरा को आगे बढ़ाने के लिए उसे शादी करनी चाहिए, तो वह स्वाभाविक रूप से शादी करेगा। मेरा कहने का मतलब यह है कि यहाँ स्वतंत्र रूप से जाँच-परख करने की गुंजाइश कहाँ है? बचपन ...