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What is love

The whole world is mad about a magical world of "love". Hollywood to Bollywood, thousands of movies have been made with the theme of love. "I love you" would be the most spoken three words in this world. I recall my school and college days. So many of us were deeply in "love" with a friend; we do not even know their whereabouts today. We keep falling in love time and again with people, things, and activities. People whom we love spending time with, things we like to have, and activities we like to do. But where is love? Probably the right question is: "What is love?" Probably one of the most difficult questions to answer. Or maybe the easiest. Because it can't be answered; it can only be felt. A fundamental question is: can "I" ever love "you"? If "I" and "you" are different, how can there be love? I often pondered this question in my childhood. Then weird ideas would come to my mind. Suppose there is a...
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A Photon Suffering from Pain

A photon is full of infinite possibilities. It may become a part of the food produced by the chlorophyll present in the cells of a plant. It may be absorbed by the solar panel on a home's roof, illuminating the home at night. It may be absorbed by the ocean, helping a water molecule rise to the ocean's surface and form a cloud. It may also reach the Moon's surface, helping illuminate the night of Purnima and inspiring poets to compose poems praising the Moon's beauty. It may also come out of the atoms in abundance when an atomic bomb is thrown on a city and may devastate the whole of the city. Would the photon ever feel pain or pleasure in any of the situations? No. But the same consciousness, when it takes the form of an atom or molecule? Probably there is no pain or pleasure even then. Integration and disintegration occur either randomly or cyclically. Stardust keeps forming new stars, and the old stars disintegrate. We see it in objects rusting, which means that iron...

Mera Mujh Me Kuch Nahi

Concerned about his child's college admission, a man in his 40s sits anxiously when a monk sits near him and asks why he's worried. The man tells the monk that he is worried about whether his child will get admission to the college. The monk smiles and asks him whether that college admission will make him happy. The adult says emphatically, "Yes". The monk asks, "Will your child also be happy if he gets admission to the desired college?" The man says, "Of course, yes. " The monk asks again, "But you too got admission to the college you wished for; then why are you worried?"  Probably none of us has an answer to this question. But, at the same time, we will simply say that the monk will not understand because he does not have a family. He does not know what responsibility means. Somebody will say that the monk does not understand fear and insecurity because he lives in a monastery, and he will not understand that the child will be fearful ...

A Electron is a Wave......

A broken relationship that was very close to our heart, the loss of a near and dear, a severe financial crisis, a divorce proceeding, prolonged litigation, a long spell of disease with many rounds of painful treatment in a depressing hospital, or loss of social reputation- all these things and many more make us feel that life is worthless. We want to leave the world. It appears as if we have attained Vairagya from Samsara. We don't mind calling a spade a spade. An unusual energy, out-of-the-world courage and rebellion become an integral part of our personality. And then we meet somebody who feels like a breath of fresh air and sweet music in our ears, and then we set another target; we again want to become somebody; we again want to possess something, and life becomes full of meaning. Till we realise the inner hollowness of the same. That's why the feeling of Vairagya in a state of low is generally very deceptive. Generally, it lasts only until we get the next target. There are...

Waiting for a Thousand Years

While talking to relatives, we often feel that the love and affection in the relations are quite superficial, but we decide to continue. While going to offices, we often feel that the performance appraisal is not fair and that honest and competent people are not being given their due share, but we decide to continue. While living in society, we feel that many beliefs and dos and don'ts do not have their genesis in scientific thought, but we decide to continue. Why? Any intelligent person will be able to notice. Then we do so; many intelligent people continue to live with the systems that lack integrity. Why would we not say "no" to the relationships that lack integrity? Because we are insecure and feel that some of these relationships may be helpful in moments of crisis. We just want to keep them to be safe and, in the process, keep getting irritated due to a vulgar demonstration of love while there is none beneath the surface. Why would we not say "no" to offic...

500 Miles

I was listening to the famous song often known as "500 Miles" or the "Railroaders' Lament," the classic folk song written by Hedy West in 1961 (and famously recorded by Peter, Paul and Mary). It is a melancholic reflection on loneliness, deep homesickness, and the pride or shame of a traveller who left home and failed to strike it rich. The "hundred miles" in the recurring line emphasises the vast, echoing emotional and physical distance separating the singer from everything they know and love. https://youtu.be/7oGwOiQsjso?si=j40rPl85jqbZAG3I I really don't know which home we're talking about. The home from which all of us have come to this Earth. Which we don't even remember. The more miles we move away from that home, the more we are full of deep homesickness, and at the same time filled with pride or shame. Pride of being an "individual" who has his own unique existence, an identity, which we are proud of. I am a CA, an officer...

Pursuit of Happiness

It's strange to see how different human beings make so many different meanings of life, and how everybody is so convinced of their own. As children, we try to fathom the depth of reality and find ourselves grossly incapable. We find none around us who can answer the most fundamental questions: "Where have we come from?", "What is the meaning of death?", "What happens after death?", "What is happiness?", "Why is there so much inequality in this world?", "Why are there so many fights among nations?", "Why am I born in this family?" The young minds have so many questions. I believe that each one of us would have had all these questions. But where did they disappear? Why are we so convinced about our own understanding of the meaning of life? Probably, that's a defence mechanism of the human mind. Each one of us has two options. First, to keep seeking the meaning of reality, which is a difficult and unsure option....

हर्ष और विषाद के बीच का जीवन

हम अपने देश के फाइनल मैच जीतने, अपने बच्चे के विवाह समारोह, लंबे संघर्ष के बाद फिल्म के नायक द्वारा अपनी प्रेमिका से शादी करने, या पसलियां टूटने के बाद भी सुल्तान द्वारा वह आखिरी मैच जीतने की खबर से वास्तव में भावनात्मक रूप से अत्यधिक ओतप्रोत हो जाते हैं। हमारा दिल खुशी से भर जाता है। वहीं, किसी बहुत करीबी की मृत्यु की खबर, या परीक्षा में हमारे बच्चे की असफलता, फिल्म में बाहुबली की बेरहमी से हत्या, किसी महत्वपूर्ण मैच में मिल्खा सिंह की हार, यह सब हमें रुला देते हैं। क्यों? क्योंकि हम अपने लोगों के लिए "खुशी" चाहते हैं, और जब वे एक लंबे संघर्ष के बाद जीतते हैं, विशेष रूप से तब जब हमें इसकी उम्मीद नहीं थी, तो हम सकारात्मक भावनाओं के एक शक्तिशाली विस्फोट को महसूस करते हैं। क्या हम वैसी ही भावनाएं महसूस करते हैं जब कोई अमेरिकी खिलाड़ी वर्षों की कड़ी मेहनत के बाद ओलंपिक में स्वर्ण पदक जीतता है? क्या हमें वैसा ही महसूस होता है जब पड़ोस के बच्चे को बहुत कड़ी मेहनत के बाद विश्वविद्यालय में स्वर्ण पदक मिलता है? क्या हमें वैसी ही अनुभूति होती है जब किसी दूर के रिश्तेदार के बेटे की मृत...

Living between Euphoria and Misery

We get really emotionally overcharged by news of our country winning a match in the finals, our child's wedding ceremony, the hero in the movie marrying his girlfriend after a long struggle, or Sultan winning that final match even after breaking ribs. Our hearts fill with joy. The news about the death of somebody very close to us, or the failure of our child in the examination, the brutal killing of Bahubali in the movie, the loss of Milkha Singh in a crucial match, all make us cry. Why? Because we want "happiness" for our own people, and when they win after a long struggle, especially when we were not expecting that to happen, we feel a powerful burst of positive emotions. Do we feel the same emotions when some American player wins a gold medal in the Olympics after years of hard work? Do we feel the same when a neighbour's child gets a gold medal at the university after a lot of hard work? Do we get the same emotion when there is the death of a distant relative'...

Cafe Musafir

I watched the Netflix web series Cafe Musafir. First of all, let me congratulate the entire team on making a meaningful series that resonates with contemporary reality. Until the last decade, the social narrative was that the purpose of our lives was to study well, marry a person, and then settle down. For the first time in this decade, especially after COVID-19, people have started taking their passion seriously. I think the web series seeks to examine certain contemporary issues in depth. First, what is the meaning of love? Is love about seeking something? If a boy feels that he loves a girl and he would be happy having a home and kids with that girl, is that love? What if the girl has ambition to grow in her career? Will this sort of love not be restrictive to the girl's ambitions? Just because society has approved of this sort of relationship, can we call it love? I feel that it is difficult to love till we are complete within and we are not seeking in the outer world. Then onl...

Enjoying the Slide

Coming down the hill is always easier than climbing up the mountain. It's always easy to fall into the temptation of things that appear to be very pleasant. That's why the world is full of people who are running after temptations. Some claim to have got rid of temptations, but actually, they fall silently into bigger temptations. Some give up the temptation of comfort to lead a socially approved life full of ambitions, while some of us get more tempted towards the self-image of being a good man or having some blissful experience.  The ground is very slippery, and a single careless step may make us fall into the valley. But why would the almighty make the world like that? Doesn't He want all of us to live a life full of possibilities where everybody is free of these temptations and can explore to the fullest? But why would God be so cruel as to make the ground so slippery so that one careless step may lead us to endless suffering? Maybe nothing like that. Krishna always want...

The Magic Land

Nobody wants painful experiences. Pain in the body, or any part of the body. A headache makes our existence painful, and we take a painkiller quickly to get rid of the pain. The same is the situation with psychological pain. Being ditched by a girlfriend or boyfriend, insulted at a social gathering, anxious about the future, concerned about self-image, apprehensive about a loss, and so many more things make us quite upset in this world. The more we try to get out of these feelings, the more we get trapped. We find ourselves helpless to get out of the psychological pain. It's not possible to get out of the psychological pain, unlike the physical pain, because the root of this pain lies somewhere else. We have enjoyed hours and hours of pleasure from the opposite. When we had a good relationship with a boyfriend or girlfriend, we took pleasure in each of those moments, and now our brain is afraid that it will be deprived of that pleasure forever. When people praised us during social ...

Settle down in the well

We pack our bags for a meeting in a different city. We book the tickets and reach the airport. After boarding the flight, we read the papers for the meeting, prepare ourselves mentally, and reach the destination. Nothing extraordinary about this. But do we ever realise that we have been part of one of the biggest miracles on Earth? We were aboard an aircraft that weighed 70-80 tons. That means an object of 70-80 tons flying in the air. But we are lost in our preparation for the meeting and miss the magic. Isn't it true for almost the whole of our lives? Every moment is full of magic, but somehow, we are so obsessed with our thoughts that we miss the magic. In the morning, we get up when there is little light outside, and soon there is light all around us. If we just stay with it, isn't it amazing that the Earth, which is hanging in space like a ball, keeps rotating on its axis, and every 24 hours we are facing the Sun for a few hours and on the other side of the Earth for a few...

Reality Check in the 40's

 Krishna would have met so many people in his lifetime on this Earth; in fact, almost all the kings of that time and many great sages. But why did he decide to be the charioteer of Arjuna? Because all the others were busy with their own belief systems and pursuits, and it was only Arjuna who dared to stay confused before Krishna. Bhishma is very sure that he has to honour his vow to protect the kingdom of Hastinapur, Duryodhana was very sure that he has to become the king the Hastinapur at any cost, Karna was sure that he has to prove himself to be a greater warrior than Arjuna, Bhima was sure that he has to take revenge, Yudhistira was sure that he has to follow the path of Dharma, as he understood Dharma to be, Dhritrastra was blind in his attachment to son, Gandhari decided to blindly stay by the side of her husband and sons. Krishna could not find any person other than Arjuna who was ready to listen to the truth and set truth as the sole guiding force of his life. When we sit i...

चुनिंदा संवेदनशीलता

 कृष्ण किसी भी चीज से आसक्त न होकर भी इतने दृढ़ निश्चयी कैसे हैं? द्रौपदी के चिरहरण, लक्षगृह की घटना या अभिमन्यु की मृत्यु से वे विचलित नहीं होते। ऐसा नहीं है कि वे अप्रभावित रहते हैं, बल्कि वे अपनी समता बनाए रखते हैं ताकि उचित समय पर कार्रवाई कर सकें। ऐसा इसलिए है क्योंकि उनका ध्यान हमेशा व्यापक दृष्टि पर केंद्रित रहता है। कृष्ण सर्वज्ञ हैं, वे अतीत और भविष्य दोनों को जानते हैं और इसलिए वे सभी बातों को समझ पाते हैं। वे देख सकते हैं कि कुरुक्षेत्र के बाद धर्म का शासन स्थापित होगा। साधारण मनुष्य, जो इतने जागरूक नहीं हैं, उनका क्या? वे कठिन परिस्थितियों में शांत कैसे रह सकते हैं? वे विचलित क्यों नहीं होते? द्रौपदी के अपमान से भीम इतना व्याकुल क्यों नहीं हुआ कि उसने दुशासन को मारने और उसके सीने का रक्त पीने की प्रतिज्ञा कर ली? लेकिन क्या भीम इतना ही व्याकुल होगा जब दुर्योधन किसी अन्य स्त्री के साथ ऐसा ही करेगा? जब अर्जुन भीष्म और द्रोण को दूसरी तरफ से लड़ते देख युद्धक्षेत्र से भागने की सोच रहा था, तो क्या वह उसी संघर्ष से गुज़रता अगर उसके बड़े-बुजुर्ग दूसरी तरफ से न लड़ रहे होते? नहीं...