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An Empty Mind to understand Insanity

A child has a belief in the purity of the heart, As he grows, he meets people very smart, He becomes sceptical, A bit practical. The belief in purity weakens, He more clearly sees fear that frightens, Trust becomes more distant, He craves something instant. Instant pleasures one after the other, Make him worse than ever, The inner hollowness grows stronger, He needs some pretension to cover. Pretensions look more real than reality, Life passes quickly, The inner hollowness becomes quite apparent, A life well spent. A not-so-practical person sees something illogical, He tries to solve the puzzle, He reads wide literature, Tries to connect the dots to understand nature. Nothing makes much sense, What we know looks like non-sense, He tries meditation, That creates more confusion. The difference between reality and imagination looks blur, It's too much of a task for the brain, which is so linear, Leaving control is beyond our contemplation, Meditation is therefore nothing more than me...

Rules of the game of Life

It's a strange world. If we look at it from a distance, it looks so amusing. People will pay millions of rupees for a bribe to get their work done, but you ask them for a donation of ten rupees, and they will make you feel like a beggar. Probably because many people have misused the charity's name. However, more so because people have not understood the meaning of life. Money is just a tool to get you something, but it has actually become an end in itself. There are two reasons for that. First, almost every means of comfort is available for money, and second, one can accumulate any amount of money, and there is no outer limit to accumulation. But I feel that the problem is more fundamental than this. Whatever money a person has, what is the use of that money? Buying more properties, cars, yachts, private jets, and powerful positions. Does it make you happy? We have tagged happiness with such low-lying things, and the most amazing thing is that there is a widespread belief in...

Games we play in the name of spirituality

We look at the statue of the Buddha and are attracted by the serenity and peace on his face. When we face difficult times in our lives, and the known world is completely shaken, we feel disturbed and anxious, unable to handle this uncertainty. We recall the statue of the Buddha and set a target to attend a Vipassana camp . We feel that doing the Vipassana camp will bring the same peace and serenity to our faces. There are so many websites and books that promote the idea that we can create thoughts of prosperity and that, if we keep repeating positive thoughts, those things start manifesting in our lives. It appears that spirituality is a talisman for getting whatever we want in our lives. Yes, the domain of spirit or consciousness is full of all the possibilities. But, having seen so many possibilities, why would I want to get fixated on the one I started with? Suppose a person sees an advertisement for a property, is impressed, and decides to visit the project office to buy it...

What if uncertainty is the biggest blessing?

I have been struggling with a hard problem for the last few days. We know certain things and don't know so many things. So, when we make a decision, it is generally based on the knowledge and awareness we have accumulated in the domain of the known. Which career is good? Civil services, because they give you security and social prestige. We have been told that security and social prestige are two fundamental desirables. What if the people around us have never tasted the joy of creativity and exploration, and that's why our decision has been biased by what we know? What if a creative and exploratory career gives us true joy? At every stage of development, certain things look very attractive. A cold drink used to look very attractive in our childhood. When cold drinks were first introduced in India, they were a big attraction at wedding ceremonies. Today, people try to avoid cold drinks. Why? because we have come to know the dangerous effects on health. Were we stupid when we us...

Falling is easy; it takes strength to rise.

I was just wondering why there is so much khat-pat between Devi Lakshmi and Saraswati . The most intelligent people in this world are not so well off, whereas street-smart people build large industries and hold powerful positions. Probably, it all depends on society's aspirations. In a society where the sole aspiration of the people is to earn money and accumulate wealth, wise people look stupid. When Astavakra goes to the wise sabha of Raja Janak, people, including Janak, laugh due to the many curves in his body. Then Astavakra gives them back, saying that if they can't see the self's existence beyond the body, they have no right to be called wise. Then they all realise their mistake, and Astavakra teaches them the nature of reality , which is contained in the Astavakra Geeta . I sometimes wonder why so many people get so satisfied with money. If we analyse the lives of people around us, most people have spent 70-80% of their energies just to earn a living. They get a j...

Integrity without Love

Is it possible to have integrity without love? We value integrity a lot. If there is no discrepancy between a person's thoughts, words, and actions, and he is not trying to hide anything, we consider such a person to be high in integrity. Of course, Ram was high on integrity. When Kaikeyi asked King Dashratha to tell Rama to go to the forest as a fulfilment of one of his boons, Rama had no hesitation and decided to leave Ayodhya immediately, despite the whole of Ayodhya and King Dashratha himself requesting that he should not go to the forest. What about Ravan? He is also high on integrity. He worked hard to get all the powers he had. He gathered knowledge of all types so that he could analyse everything to the core. He did not mince his words when he kidnapped Sita. he made an open offer to marry Sita and actually wanted to marry her and keep her happy. When his sister was insulted by Sita, he decided to take revenge and fought Ram till his last breath. His thoughts, words, and a...

Water Water Everywhere, Not a Drop to Drink

When it comes to love, our condition is like a person in the midst of an ocean. Water water everywhere and not a drop to drink. We have contaminated all the relationships to the point that there is not even an iota of uncontaminated love in almost all of them. The relationship between father and son should naturally have been full of love. But the father wants his son to take care of the business and marry someone whose family would help him promote it. The mother-son relationship should again be naturally full of love. However, the mother would want the son to bring a daughter-in-law whom she can demonstrate as a prized possession in her society. The relationships between the siblings should again be uncontaminated, but they will fight like cat and dog for a small piece of land. The relationship between husband and wife should again be naturally full of love because both give birth to their children. However, the whole of the world knows the reality of the relationship. Why are w...

Switch on "explorer mode"!

When there is a crisis in a family, say for example somebody is diagnosed with cancer or some other terminal disease , or there is an acute financial crisis that mandates selling off the home and basic possessions of the family, or there is a crisis in relationships with ugly allegations and below-the-belt actions and reactions, or there is a natural disaster like earthquake , we switch on the " survival mode ". In the "survival mode" , we are driven by a fundamental objective to survive and ensure the survival of our near and dear ones. If survival is ensured, generally, we want to enjoy life. Have nice, tasty food, meet friends, visit different places, socialise, gather comforts, watch movies, enjoy entertainment, and enjoy life. Basically, we switch on the " comfort mode " of our lives. Sometimes, when we switch on comfort mode, we realise that we do not have enough means to provide comfort for ourselves and our near and dear ones. We set different...

Marry Them Young

It's amazing to see the enthusiasm of a new bride and groom. Their minds are full of imagination about the future. Probably, that also gives a sense of achievement, because most Bollywood movies portray marriage as the destination . The hero struggles throughout the movie just to get married, and the moment he marries his beloved, there is "The End". So, probably, there is childhood conditioning among boys and girls that marriage is "the destination". There is very little appreciation for movies like Ijajat, Masoom, and Drishti. They are discounted by the people as boring, while their "boring" concept may be the closest to life. There is a phrase in the recruitment system, " catch them young ". Identify potential employees early so their minds can be trained more effectively to align with the organisation's culture. Before a person develops independent thinking, organisations train their mind to align it with the organisation's obje...

The Dance Floor of Life

All of us would recall the structures we used to create from the sand while playing in the garden or on the beach. We will take great pride in the structure we created, the cave, the statue, and the little home. We would put in hours and hours to create those structures and, in fact, had a strong sense of ownership and possession of having created them. The "pride of creation" will be doomed when we visit the garden or beach the next day, only to find that the structure we created with so much effort has been taken away by the waves or has been crushed by some animal. The structure becomes sand again, and we try to build something new out of it. The pot makers also do the same thing. They make the pots from mud and then fire them to make them more durable. We buy these pots and use them. But once broken, they turn into mud. So many different metals are extracted from the Earth, and we make so many different things from those metals. This laptop is also made of so many metals....

Pebbles and Pine Cones

Every one of us must have memories of going to a hill station in childhood and being amazed by the different kinds of stones and pebbles on the banks of mountain rivers. We used to feel excited and pick some of these pebbles. Similarly, we will go to a hill station, get excited to see the pine cones , and pick some in our backpack, only to realise soon that it has become too heavy. Life offers us amazing experiences, but it does not want us to carry them home. You go for a walk, and a very nice wind is blowing; we can't carry that home. We meet a friend and have a wonderful discussion. We can't guarantee we'll have the same discussion when we meet next time. We travel and see some beautiful scenes in the sky, but we can't recreate them at will. The human brain has this amazing capacity to create. It has created roads, buildings, machines, aeroplanes, computers, mobiles, and so many different types of machines. We created so many things, only to be buried by the weight ...

Fragile Ego

There was a scene in the famous movie " Schindler's List " when the hero leaves the factory, where he sheltered many Jews to save their lives. He says he could have saved one more person by selling the golden button on his coat, his only asset. Despite doing so much, he feels that he could have done more. On the other hand, we have people who get so many things without any commensurate effort and still lack gratitude. Not only do they lack gratitude, but they also feel that others are duty-bound to fulfil their expectations. How do we have the two types of people, poles apart from each other, in the same world? I feel that all of us have two different voices within us. The first voice is the voice of instincts . It makes us feel that comfort and pleasure are good for us. It says that you earn money by whatever means, even by cheating others, so that the means of comforts and pleasures may be accumulated. It says that the comfort of the day is more important than anything ...

A Difficult Choice! No Choice! or Absolute Clarity

When Akrura ji went to invite Krishna to Mathura , Krishna was happy playing with his friends in Brij . What would have gone through the mind of the young child? On the one hand are Ma Yashoda, Baba Nand, and all the friends. On the other hand, there is some possibility that is quite hazy. How would one choose that dim possibility over what Krishna already had with him? Why do we choose to get unsettled when we are well settled in our lives? But what is the essence of life? Settlement? In that case, rocks and mountains are also settled. The atoms making the human body are also settled. Where is the need for so many atoms to come together and make cells and organelles, neurons, tissue, bones, and so many different organs and make all of them function as if they are one? Why do the settled atoms make a body that is highly vulnerable? It is because they wish to explore possibilities that cannot be explored at the atomic level. Why do we leave the settled life in a small town and mov...

Anxiety of a Parent

I was talking to a parent today. Worried about her child's future, she asked me to guide the child. I told her that the child is struggling with two things: first, the uncertainty about the competitive exam, and second, the parents' anxiety. It would be a great favour to the child if the burden of the second is taken away from her shoulders. Anxiety is very natural for parents in this world, which is so competitive that everything from getting admission to a good school, to a college, to getting a job is so challenging. There are so many distractions, and it is one of the biggest challenges for parents to ensure that their children remain focused on their studies in a world full of them. But why are some children so focused while others get distracted easily? Similarly, why do some parents get so anxious? Probably because we do not want to observe reality with clarity. If a child observes reality, it will not take him the study of rocket science to understand that it is explo...