Life

 मेरे मन में कुछ बुनियादी सवाल उठ रहे हैं। जब किसी परिवार में कोई बच्चा पैदा होता है, तो माता-पिता, जाने-अनजाने में, अपने डर और असुरक्षाओं को उस बच्चे में उतार देते हैं। वे अपनी महत्वाकांक्षाएँ और लालच भी उस बच्चे को दे देते हैं। वह किस तरह का खाना खाएगा और उसकी सोच के बुनियादी तत्व क्या होंगे, ये सब भी उसे माता-पिता से ही मिलते हैं। क्या उस बच्चे के पास कोई विकल्प होता है? अगर वह किसी हिंदू परिवार में पैदा होता है, तो वह हिंदू धर्म का पालन करेगा; अगर किसी मुस्लिम परिवार में पैदा होता है, तो स्वाभाविक रूप से मुस्लिम धर्म का पालन करेगा। अगर वह शाकाहारी परिवार में पैदा होता है, तो शाकाहारी खाना खाएगा; अगर मांसाहारी परिवार में पैदा होता है, तो मांसाहारी खाना खाएगा। अगर माता-पिता पैसे को ही जीवन का केंद्र मानते हैं, तो वह नौकरी पाने या कोई व्यवसाय शुरू करने के लिए खूब पढ़ाई करेगा। अगर माता-पिता को लगता है कि अपनी वंश-परंपरा को आगे बढ़ाने के लिए उसे शादी करनी चाहिए, तो वह स्वाभाविक रूप से शादी करेगा। मेरा कहने का मतलब यह है कि यहाँ स्वतंत्र रूप से जाँच-परख करने की गुंजाइश कहाँ है? बचपन ...

Each one of us knows that if the whole of the world moves in the direction of spirituality , the world will be the most beautiful place to live. What if everybody is full of love and compassion ? Would people with billions of dollars and rupees in their accounts sleep peacefully when they know that billions of people are dying of hunger? With their hearts full of love, they will make every effort to help those dying of hunger. Why would there be terror and exploitation when the heart of everybody is full of love and compassion?  When the solution is so easy, why are we shying away from the same? There are two fundamental reasons for the same. First, we are not sure about others. Many countries decided to give away their nuclear arms and focus on economic development . But then they were attacked by greedy countries. The same thing happens in life. We have been driven by love and compassion, but the people around us have started manipulating us and treating us as their tools. That'...

Today, in our Sunday dialogue, we had a profound discussion. Shakti ji mentioned that J. Krishnamurti once said that the seeking of pleasure begins with our inability to accept loneliness . We get bored. Unable to bear that boredom, we want some spice in life. We seek the company of people. We want to enjoy the materialistic pleasures. One restaurant to the other, one tourist place to the other. Since money is the currency used to buy all these pleasures, it becomes central to our existence. Most of the relationships are formed as an escape. Since two people are uncomfortable in their own company, they form a relationship to give comfort to each other. Both run after the objects of pleasure together. The story of Gandhari is very beautiful and symbolic. She married Dhritrastra and had her eyes blindfolded for the rest of her life. That seems quite strange. If her husband were blind, at least she could have helped her husband see the world. His life would have been more comfortable. ...

Brahmcharya is said to be an essential component of spiritual practices. Many people take sanyasa to move away from the world full of desires. While many feel that this world is for enjoyment, and one should enjoy to the fullest extent. I watched a movie long back titled "Samsara" wherein a Buddhist monk meditates in a cave for a long time, but he has desires left. He goes on a ritual to a village and falls in love with a woman. He gives up the monkhood and marries that lady. In the process, he fought with other villagers and had one more affair, finally realising that it was all futile to return to the monastery. The point I want to drive home is that it is also not certain whether one will be free of desires, whether one is a monk or a family man. I am not sure what's a good way to get rid of the desires. To fulfil them so that they drop naturally, or to abstain from them. Many people abstain from money. I have seen honest officers always being compared with corrupt ...

Fairness is a very abstract concept. A lady has some leftover sweets in the kitchen that her own kids have refused to eat. She offers them to a maid, who eats the sweets and becomes happy. The lady knows that her own kids would never eat such sweets. Is it fair on the part of that lady? A rich country is not finding space to dump the e-waste . It ships containers filled with e-waste to a poor country, where the country takes it to extract precious metals. The rich country knows very well that e-waste is harmful to the environment, and that's why it sends the containers to the poor country. Is it fair on the part of the rich country? Fairness is very relative. Was Krishna fair when he asked Bhima to hit Duryodhana on the thigh against the rules of the game? Was Krishna fair when he asked Arjuna to hit an arrow at Karna when his chariot broke down? Was it fair on the part of the Kauravas to insult Draupadi ? Was it fair on the part of Draupadi to insult Duryodhana while Duryodhana...

There is a beautiful story in the Bhagwat Puran in which Narad Muni is travelling with Lord Vishnu . Lord Vishnu realises that Narad has developed arrogance of being a bhakta . To help him see reality , Lord Vishnu sends him to bring a glass of water. Narad reaches home and asks for a glass of water. A beautiful girl comes out, and Narad falls in love with that girl. He forgets the task assigned to him and proposes to marry the girl. He marries the girl, and they have kids. He "loves" his family very much and makes every effort to make them happy. A massive flood hits the village, causing Narada to lose his wife and children. As he is drowning in grief, Vishnu appears and asks, "Where is my water? I have been waiting for hours." What is the meaning of Narada's "love" for his family? What is the meaning of " happiness "? We go to a multiplex to watch a movie. The projector sends a beam of light to the screen, and we watch something happen on...

Sometimes I wonder what people do in the name of self-love . Anybody who dives deeper and deeper into the ocean of life would invariably realise that we are all connected. All the waves in different parts of the ocean are nothing but the ocean. They appear very different. Some silent, some noisy. Some harmless, some aggressive. Some high, some low. Underlying all of them is the water of the ocean. Water, dancing to different tunes with the winds.  All of us are also like waves, dancing to the wind of life. Fundamentally, we are comprised of the same matter, just having different mindsets and beliefs, like different types of waves dancing on the surface of the ocean. What is the self-love of a wave? Love to protect its shape? What if it merges into the ocean? It will just reemerge as a wave. What's so great about protecting its form?  Love is very different. A loving wave will love all the waves. It will have the realisation that all the waves share the same source. A big wave ...

In reality, we live in the world of thoughts. If we close our eyes and think for a moment about who we are, all of us would get different answers. Our name, family, relationships, city where we live, home, job, properties, community, religion, belief system, thought process, and so on. Generally, a few of these things will come to our minds. All of them exist just in our minds. Just because it exists in the minds of all the people around us, it looks so real. For example, a movie in the picture hall looks more real because the lights are switched off and the walls are soundproof. We are cut off from the reality outside the hall. In the hall, everybody cries and laughs together, making it quite a realistic experience. As we get lost in the movie, it becomes increasingly difficult for our minds to remember that it's just a movie. That's why we get engrossed with the characters and feel highly emotive. Isn't the same true about our name? Since childhood, we have been called th...

Responsibility and guilt are two emotions I have felt very deeply in my life. I think that these two emotions are quite closely linked. When we feel responsible towards someone and are unable to meet that responsibility, we feel guilty. If you feel responsible for marrying a friend you are committed to, and somehow, our parents do not agree, you feel guilty. When you feel responsible for developing good systems in an organisation but are unable to do so, you feel guilty. When you feel responsible for making someone happy and fail to do so, you feel guilty. If one feels responsible, not fulfilling that responsibility will naturally make one feel guilty. But why do we feel responsible? Do we feel responsible because we love? Do we feel responsible towards God because we love God? Most probably not. Love does not bring a sense of responsibility. On the contrary, it is a sense of separation that brings responsibility. The sense of separation breeds the sense of doership . When we have...

  Generation X was raised in a very authoritarian way. There was no way we could have questioned society's values. The rights and wrongs were so deeply embedded in our psyche. So much so that a child has to smoke cigarettes or take liquor, he would die of a heart attack if his parents saw him doing so. We will not allow the "good boy" or "good girl" image of ourselves to be questioned at any stage, no matter how much effort it takes. Children of our generation will keep even their affairs so secretive. Our generation had very little information available in the public domain, and that's why nobody was sure. We ran out of confidence. We were always unsure whether we knew.  Generation Z and Alpha are different. They are brought up in a very free environment. They are on your face. If they are selfish, they would have no hesitation in admitting it. They are very well-informed because they have access to the internet and social media. That's why they are ...

  Give Me Some Sunshine, Give Me Some Rain Give Me Another Chance, I Wanna Grow Up Once Again ये फ़िल्म "3 Idiots" के मशहूर गाने की कुछ लाइनें हैं। इस दुनिया में हर किसी की ज़रूरतें पूरी करने के लिए काफ़ी कुछ है, लेकिन कुछ लोगों के लालच के लिए यह काफ़ी नहीं है। कुछ लोग दुनिया के सारे संसाधनों पर कब्ज़ा कर लेते हैं और दूसरों का शोषण करते हैं। अंग्रेज़ों ने भी ठीक यही किया था, जब उन्होंने कई देशों को अपना उपनिवेश बनाया और उनके प्राकृतिक संसाधनों को पूरी तरह से खत्म कर दिया। जब लोग अपने अधिकारों के लिए लड़ने को उठ खड़े होते हैं, तो वे आज़ादी के उन सिपाहियों को आतंकवादी बताकर मार डालते हैं। यह बात पूरी दुनिया में, हर स्तर पर बहुत आम है। कुछ संगठन बहुत बड़े हो जाते हैं और पूरे उद्योग पर अपना एकाधिकार जमा लेते हैं, जिससे छोटे खिलाड़ियों का दम घुटने लगता है। अपना दबदबा बनाए रखने के लिए वे एकाधिकार वाली और गलत व्यापारिक तरीकों का सहारा लेते हैं। वे नीतियों को प्रभावित करते हैं और किसी न किसी तरह से सबके लिए समान अवसर (level playing field) को खत्म कर देते हैं, ताकि कोई नया उद्यमी या ब...

Give Me Some Sunshine, Give Me Some Rain Give Me Another Chance, I Wanna Grow Up Once Again These are the lines from the famous song of the movie " 3 Idiots ". There is enough for everybody's needs in this world, but not sufficient for the greed of even a few. A few people control all the world's resources and exploit others. That's what the British did when they colonised so many countries and depleted them of their natural resources. When the people rise to fight for their rights, they will treat the freedom fighters as terrorists and kill them.  This phenomenon is quite common across the world, at all levels. A few organisations grow large and monopolise the industry, suffocating small players. They resort to monopolistic and unfair trade practices to maintain their dominance. They influence policies and somehow undermine the level playing field , ensuring that a young entrepreneur cannot stand up. Even if someone dares to stand, they spread the news of greed...

We will find thousands of books that promote the idea that we should "live in the present moment" and not worry about the future. Millions of people attend the spiritual discourses where realised souls , as well as "not realised and pretending to be realised" souls, tell us not to worry or be anxious. Our parents also tell us not to worry. In fact, while we pass through a tough phase, our friends also advise us not to worry and to be happy.  It is such universal advice not to worry, be happy, and live in the present moment. Yet I am 100% sure that all of us worry about one thing or another. Why is worry so common? Because we want things to happen the way we want them to happen. When things do not happen the way we want, we become sad. When we realise that things will not happen the way we want them to, we worry. We worry about the result of the examination. What if I fail? What if I am not able to get the stream I want to study? What if parents do not agree to the m...

At what point in time would Gautama have decided to leave his home? He was perplexed by the questions of life and death, old age and disease, happiness and sorrow, while the entire kingdom, including his parents and wife, was busy seeking to maximise their pleasures and comforts. To the extent that his father would try all the possible methods to keep Gautam away from reality. Any person who gets attracted to the rays of the Sun will make an effort to come out of the well. The rest of the people will stay happily inside the well, considering that to be the whole of reality. Having seen the Sun and the sea, it is impossible for a person to stay inside the well. Even if he goes back inside the well, the limitations of the well and the images of the sea will haunt him. He will never remain happy inside the well, unlike the people who have never seen the sea. Naturally, people inside the well will conclude that it is painful to go out, look at such people, and will find another strong...