Life

We are told to be responsible since our childhood. A responsible son or daughter, a responsible husband or wife, a responsible friend, a responsible father or mother, a responsible employee, a responsible neighbour. There are thousands of proverbs around this. A friend in need is a friend indeed. Almost every Bollywood movie has glorified the feeling of responsibility. Parents want teachers to raise their children to be responsible sons and daughters.  Where does the sense of responsibility come from? I was just wondering where that sense of responsibility came from in me. I contemplated at length and realised that this feeling comes from a combo of two strong emotions: fear and a sense of belonging. If we are born and brought up in an insecure ecosystem where we are threatened for survival, and then we get associated with a small group that feels a sense of belonging for each other, we feel that sense of responsibility for each other. A responsibility to protect each other. Genera...

I am often inspired by the character Vibhishana . He is the only character, so far as I know, in Indian mythology who was born into the Rakshasa Kula , stayed with the Rakshasas for quite a long time, and yet kept his Sadhana silent. When the right time came, he just left Ravan and joined Ram . On the other hand, Bharata 's mother, Kaikeyi, received two boons from Dashratha and asked that Bharata be made king of Ayodhya . Apparently, Kaikeyi was a well-wisher of Bharata, but Bharata understood what was good for him. His locus was pure. His locus was love, and that's why he did not take even a minute to decide that he had to get Ram back to Ayodhya. When Ram did not agree, he placed his Kharaun on the throne and carried out the functions as his servant. Both Vibhishana and Bharat had to struggle. The same struggle all of us have to go through when we move along the spiritual path. We are born and brought up in a highly egoistic society. We learn to live with divisions since ch...

There is no Google Map in the mountains. When we undertake a journey in the world of the unknown, there is hardly any visible guidance available. We mostly work on our intuitions. When we take the road less travelled, we often do not find a paved road. Sometimes we do not find any road at all, and we have to make our own path.  Similarly, when we embark on the journey into the world of spirituality , we move away from the known. The first question that comes to our mind is: "How do we know whether we are going in the right direction?" One of the easiest things to do is to hire a guide. We do so while trekking in the mountains. The guide tells us where to go. But the problem with the guide is that his own experience is again limited. The moment we take a guide, we are not entering the domain of the unknown; we are entering only the domain of the known. Just the Google Map has been replaced with the guide. There is no real exploration, so we will not be able to go beyond what ...

One of the most captivating discoveries of the day is the Higgs Field . CERN experiments at the Large Hadron Collider (LHC) confirmed the existence of the Higgs field in 2012 by discovering the Higgs boson, a ripple in that field. This field fills the universe and gives mass to elementary particles. The Higgs field is an invisible energy field that permeates the entire universe and gives mass to fundamental particles. Without it, particles would rush through space at the speed of light, and atoms could never form. There has hardly been any research in the field of consciousness. Karl H. Pribham conducted many experiments on plants. He discovered that the plants can read human intentions. Meaning thereby that if we intend to uproot a plant, the plant reads that and emits stress photons , which can, in turn, be read by a photometer. In fact, experiments were carried out showing that if a plant is regularly watered by a person, and the person travels thousands of miles away from the ...

" Purpose of life " is something we are trying to discover through the spiritual journey . A few years back, I designed a Google survey and sent it to a few friends to discover the most common conflicts in midlife . One of the most common responses of the people was that they were confused about the purpose of life. Having achieved the target milestones in their careers and families, they had little to look forward to. I see most of them today after 4-5 years. All of them have set new targets for themselves. Some have made health and fitness their priority, while others are investing their time and energy in spiritual pursuits. A friend shared a video this morning that's basically about Zen 's understanding of life's purpose. It says the ego seeks the purpose of life. Life is all about living in the present moment rather than discovering its purpose. It reminds me of the story of the frog in the well, told by Swami Vivekananda at the Parliament of Religions in C...

One of the biggest boons we all have is " limited awareness ". We can see the things that are larger than a particular limit. Think of the scenario where we can see everything clearly, however small. What if we could see the viruses and bacteria inside the food? Would we be able to eat that food? What if we could see the small microbes on the floor? Would we be able to walk? What if we can see the dust particles in the air clearly? What if we could read the minds of the people we live with? We would probably not be able to tolerate them. What if we could see our past lives? It will be difficult for us to live such a shallow life again and again. At the same time, there is a lot of premium to "awareness' in almost every spiritual tradition. Doesn't it appear to be contradictory? Why would we try to be aware of the things that are going to give us pain? When we talk about awareness, it comes in two types. First, awareness of the external world; second, awareness of...

 Life is the sum total of the choices we make. Ram 's life would have been different had he chosen not to go to the forest. The life of Krishna would have been completely different had he chosen not to leave Brij for Mathura. My life would have been different had I not listened to Narayan ji , my CA, when I was working in a CA firm after appearing for my CA final exam, to prepare for the civil services. I never heard of the Civil Services before that. Our choices related to friends, education, career, marriage, kids, and lifestyle all have a huge impact on who we are. In fact, we are so different because we made different choices at different points in our lives. But what about the situations? It was only because Kaikeyi asked the two boons that Rama had to make a choice to go or not to go to the forest. It was because Kansa called Krishna that he decided to leave Brij. It was only because Narayan ji spoke to me that I had to make a decision. We come across different people in o...

 A seed is well protected within its cover. We see so many different types of seeds in our kitchen, some of which even survive for months without much struggle. The grains of wheat may remain safe in that drum inside our house for months. However, when a grain is sown into the ground, its struggle starts. Now it will look for the water and food and spread its roots inside the soil. It will have to struggle against the insects, wind, and the rough weather. It's not as safe as inside the drum, yet the opportunities for its growth have manifolded now. Inside the drum, its fate was decided. Within a few months, it will be ground and become food for somebody without realising its fullest potential. However, it has to face all the challenges on the ground to realise its potential. Having faced these challenges, it has the opportunity to emerge from the soil as a plant, interact directly with the Sun, and grow to its fullest potential. Our ego is also like that grain of wheat. Usually, we...

Why did Duryodhana not have any remorse despite being so unfair to the Pandavas , while Arjuna was quite unsure about hitting an arrow at his cousins? What made Arjuna so sensitive while Duryodhana so insensitive? Is sensitivity a curse? The ego , like skin, forms a protective cover around us. As skin protects us from viruses and bacteria, the ego too protects us from many things. When we see so many people dying hungry for food, the ego tells us that we are different from them and we have the right to accumulate money in our accounts even if so many people in this world are dying hungry. We remain immune to the comments of others and reject them at the outset. We remain immune to the actions of the people around us, and often our ego ridicules them as illogical. As we grow spiritually, we open up. We dare to remove that safety cover of the ego. As we open up, all types of influences impact us. Because we do not ridicule or reject them at the very outset. The problem with the ego is ...

One good thing that I like about the government service is that your roles keep changing. Today I was looking at the transfer and posting orders and realised that soon after the order, the roles of so many of us will change for the next two years. It's so easy to see this change of roles. In fact, none of us has an option to ignore it. You have to perform the duty assigned to you. Yes, I see that people get attached to their positions and start playing inter-division politics . We get a position for just 2-3 years and become attached to it. The moment we get out of that position, we realise the stupidity of falling into another trap. We can't see the reality, even though it is so open before us. We sit and sleep in our room every day, and yet if somebody asks all of a sudden about the colour of the bed sheet, we won't realise because our attention isn't on the colour of the bed sheet. Similarly, we might have spent a day with a friend, and if someone asks us what dress...

 So many laws have been enacted worldwide to regulate human relations. There are laws around almost every aspect of human behaviour, such as laws dealing with crime, contracts, relations, possession of property, liabilities, nuisance, corruption, dowry, marriage, succession, partnerships, companies, tax, security, and so on. The entropy of the legal literature is so huge that I don't think that any AI engine in the world as of date would have access to the entire legal literature of the world. Every day, thousands of decisions are announced, and none of us has the capacity to be aware of them all. Despite so much jurisprudence, have we been able to resolve the problems of humanity? No. In fact, the more laws are made, the more people find loopholes therein. The law-breakers are always a few steps ahead of the law-makers. This cat-and-mouse game may go on forever, but we have probably missed a very fundamental aspect of human behaviour. While watching the web series Chiraya , my min...

While reading the Constitution of India and the legal debates and case laws, I realised that so many legal battles have been fought around freedom of expression and liberty. In fact, the entire freedom struggle was around freedom and liberty. We should have the right to manage our own affairs, to have our own representatives in Parliament, and to freedom of expression and the right to live a dignified life . This has been the struggle of all the countries that have fought their battle for freedom.  I'm surprised to see how easily people give in to social pressure . The freedom of expression, the right to a dignified life, and the right to make choices : these are all surrendered to social pressure quite often. How many of us would speak what we feel on any issue if we are surrounded by people who have a different opinion on the same issue? All of us have experienced a simple instance where, at a wedding, the music is generally loud and relatives who have come from distant places...

Are we the roles playing in this world, or are we the souls who are capable of playing different roles? This is a fundamental question because all subsequent questions, such as those about morality, responsibility, guilt, right, wrong, and the like, flow from it. Generally, while living our lives, we take guidance from our roles. If we are in a family, we want to protect our family. Similarly, we define different roles and rights and wrongs associated with them. I was reading Jurisprudence yesterday for my law examination, and I came across a beautiful concept called the " Grudge Informer Dilemma ," proposed by the German legal philosopher Gustav Radbruch . A lady passed on the information to the Nazi government, and the husband was executed by the Nazi's. Post the change of the Hitler regime, a prosecution was launched against her, and she argued that she complied with the law of the land, and that's why she should not be held guilty. Radbruch argued that when positi...

All of us are quite aware of the role we play in this world. I am a father, mother, son, daughter, employee, student, teacher, boss, friend, and so on. But do we remember that we are somebody else behind these identities? Today, while sitting in meditation, I realised that these roles carry so much weight on our soul that even when we close our eyes to begin the inner journey , the journey of "who am I?", these roles continue to play in our minds. The thoughts about the future, office, relationships, etc do not leave us.  Then what is the way out? How do we get to see the reality beyond these roles ? While interacting with each other in this world, we obviously have to stick to these roles. When we interact in society, we have to remember these roles. While doing our work in the office, we can't suddenly say, "I will not treat my boss as a boss because that's just a role." Since we play these roles day in and day out, we become confined to them. Our existenc...

I wonder if we give away the most precious things in this just to get something that has little utility. I feel pained to see the way precious resources are being wasted. We have made our rivers so dirty just because we do not want to make the effort to treat effluents before dumping them into the rivers. We keep throwing the garbage everywhere, and literally all the roads are full of polyethene and packaging papers. All the cities are full of the stench from dumping grounds at their entrances. Groundwater is getting contaminated. Due to our foolishness, we have given away the most precious things, such as clean water, air, and the ecosystem, to get that extra comfort. All these things are still visible. One thing that hardly catches our attention is the freedom of leisure . Earlier, we used to have that time to talk to friends, sleep under the stars, and sit silently in our own company. Nowadays, we don't have time for two reasons. First, we are busy chasing our dreams. The dre...