People like Kabira and Buddha will try to give till their last breath to society, while there are many billionaires who can do anything for money. We have people like Dadhichi who will give his bones to Indra for saving the world. On the other hand, there are people like Hitler who can kill millions of people just because of their madness. People like Bhagat Singh will give their lives for love and freedom, while on the other hand, some people will throw acids on the girls, they are not able to grab.
Where does this grabbing mentality come from? From deep insecurities within? Yes. But why would these billionaires feel insecure? Why would Hitler feel insecure? Because they never contemplated the meaning of life, and made a winning formula to handle their insecurities. Winning formula in the form of money, power, or a relationship. However, as we are well aware, everything in this world is fleeting. The more people accumulate, the more they become aware that all their possessions are fragile. Since the entire survival of the billionaire is dependent on his money, he becomes quite insecure, and out of that insecurity does not mind manipulating the market and playing all the dirty tricks just to ensure that he is able to retain that money. The more a person gathers power, the more he realizes the fragility of that power, and the more brutal he becomes. The more a person becomes dependent on a relationship and the more he tries to control.
The techniques to control and manipulate will vary from person to person. Some people try to control others by brute force. Some roadside majnoo will throw acid on the girl or try to rape her. Someone may try to control by showing fear of violence. Someone may try to control the other by making them financially dependent. Someone may try to control through emotional blackmail. Someone may try to control by threatening social ostracism. Someone may try to control the other by constantly hitting on their self-image of being a good person.
These "exploiters" will always exploit others because they are in a barren land of greed and hatred, which is completely deprived of even a drop of rain. That's why if they get to meet some loving person, they somehow try to grab and control him. The cloud, full of water, may shower the whole of the water it carries, but the barren land will still remain thirsty. Not so that the barren land can't be made fertile, but that needs constant plantation of trees. The first plantation is quite difficult, but if a person keeps doing that constantly, even the worst of barren land may be converted into fertile land. Such people need to change the direction of their life, and if they start doing selfless work, one after the other, they may definitely reconnect to their inner love and compassion. People like Valmiki and Angulimal could turn their lives around.
The more surprising thing to me is why "givers" get exploited? Why do people suffer in relationships? Probably because behind their "giving" lies some desire to get back some "intangible". The trophy of a "happy family", or a "good wife", or a "good person". But is it fair to be exploited for these "titles" which are as temporary and fragile as money, powers, and relationships? Probably the "givers" have made "giving" as their winning formula, and that's why they allow somebody to exploit them. They are also equally barren and crave those drops of water in the form of "social validation," and that's why they don't raise their voice against their exploitation. We all need to introspect. Life is not about giving or exploiting. Life is all about living. We just need to live and let others live. This entire business of "giving" in exchange for some "intangible" and "exploiting" by manipulation is nonsense and serves nobody's purpose. The "giver" and "exploiter" both feel equally dry and barren. If we can observe this, we will not be a part of this madness anymore.
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