I feel big social gatherings to be quite a waste of time as well as resources. People come together and spend so much money on unnecessary dresses. Dresses that are quite expensive and at the same time not even comfortable to wear. We spend lakhs to buy these dresses. We spend lakhs of rupees on food. So much food gets wasted at every function. While so many people suffer from poverty and deprivation of food, does it make sense to waste so much food? On top of it, there is no real interaction in these functions. Most people are busy running here and there. Even if people sit together and want to discuss, there is hardly any scope for the same due to the loud music.
I really don't understand why people glorify these functions so much and waste their hard-earned money on these functions. When a boy and a girl are starting their new life, is there anybody who would discuss with them about the meaning of a relationship, responsibility, and the meaning of life? The kids are too busy competing at school, college, and the office that they hardly get any chance to understand the meaning of life. Now, when they start their new life together, have they actually understood the meaning of a relationship and marriage? If they begin their journey without understanding the meaning of a relationship, that is going to prove to be a disaster. These social functions should ideally be an opportunity to discuss the meaning of relationships and life. However, I find the quality of discussions to be quite sub-standard.
Deep discussions require dialogue. Where all the viewpoints are placed on the table so that we can see them together. Where is the time for such dialogues? It seems that people who attend these functions are running so short of that "magic of life" that whenever they get to attend these functions, they just want to have a peg and join the dance floor. The mindless move on the loud music, then get tired and go and sleep, and go to the office the next day, cribbing about the office and just waiting for another function where they can again "live their lives" and "demonstrate how happy they are".
What we call enjoyment is that real enjoyment. If that is so, why are almost all of them so sad when we talk to them separately? What is the need to look that cool? Why do we want to project an image of being happy? I have seen people passing through depression and crisis dancing on the stage. Why? Because we are never authentic in our interactions in society. We constantly pretend. That is why these interactions are so shallow. Admitting our suffering would mean showing a weak face to the people who are constantly judging. They are judging everything. We just want to prove that we are the winners. That we are the happiest. That's why pretension is a necessity. We fail to realize how much life energy this pretension sucks. I wish people could take some out of this falsity to really understand their own lives and what is happening with their kids. How much their kids are struggling because their parents have not sorted out their lives. Generation after generation, the same suffering continues. It just needs mindful dialogues and conversations around real-life problems. Celebration of love, compassion, and freedom and not a mindless celebration.
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