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Yesterday, I once again watched the movie Aradhana. Something in that movie attracts me to watch it again and again. Probably the love of a lady for her husband and son. A silent rebellion against the society. The courage to stand the test of time. Love and gratitude for everybody around. Something echoes with me so deeply that I get moved after watching the movie.

Love is always absolute and no division exists in love. Vandana loves Suraj, his son, and the daughter of the jailer, who makes her his sister and takes her home. She is equally concerned about their well-being. A loving person will love everybody. When we tune in to the frequency of love, we tune in with every person who tunes in to the same frequency. At the same time, a loving person gets the courage to even kill the people who are obsessed with their identity and hellbent to disturb and damage love and harmony. Such actions are guided by their absolute love for humanity. Rama got the courage to kill Ravana, and Krishna to kill Kansa. 

Love is not bound by the rules of society and can not stop people belonging to different religions and castes from loving each other. When somebody loves, all the boundaries cease to exist. We have seen examples where people having nationalities of enemy countries have fallen in love. For love, even death is not a barrier. Vandana will love Arun even after his death. Savitri will love Satyavan even when Yama takes his prana and fights with Yama to take his prana back. Nachiketa's love for his father is absolute and that is the reason why when his father gets angry and out of anger offers him to Yama, he goes to meet Yama and when Yama offers him boons, as the first boon, he asks that his father should again love him. That is Nachiketa's absolute love for his father.

I feel that one can not experience love unless one is free of all the identifications. Identification brings fixations and a fixated mind can't love. When we are fixated to taste, we can't love our stomach and body. We will eat unhealthy food for taste and our stomachs will be in pain. When we are fixated on money, we will not only make our lives limited but also try to confine the choices of our kids and make them limited. We will judge their career options in terms of packages and miss to see where lies their interest. When we are fixated on life and afraid of death, we will confine the choices of our own kids and not allow them to take up activities that have a certain degree of thrill and adventure. We often impose our own fixations on our kids consciously or unconsciously. When we are fixated on powers, we push our kids to career options that offer powers rather than looking at the capacity and inclinations of our kids. This is not love at all. We are just using our own kids to fulfill our dreams. 

When we become free of our own fixations, we see everything quite differently. Seeking ends. In that state, we can see through the other person. Krishna could see through Arjuna and knew that the confusion and conflict of Arjuna on the battlefield of Kurukshetra was the result of conditioning by the society and if he is not set free of this conditioning, he will not be able to do what he is meant for. One develops the capacity to love truly only when one gets free of the grip of his own "ego fixations" and such a free soul can help "others" too to set free of their own fixations. When one sets free of the fixed frames of life, one connects to the soul within that is not confined to a body, nation, community, rule, or any other artificial boundary created by human beings. One will tune to any and everybody who dares to burn his own house of ego and attachments. 

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