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A wonderful relationship

The purest form of love in this world is the love of parents towards their children. Most of the other relationships in this world are not so pure. When a child is born, he is in the purest form; completely naked. He has no likes or dislikes, rights or wrongs. He does not know any language. He does not understand any moral values. The parents observe the child in the purest form, like an empty vessel or a clean board. They form a relationship with that purity. 

Slowly the child grows up in society and comes into contact with matter and thoughts. His senses get attracted to different objects of pleasure and try to run away from different objects of pain. That gives rise to different desires and to fulfill these desires, he acquires different tools. The most important tool in the toolkit is the social validation. It's easy to survive if we follow the rules of society, or at least pretend to follow them. There are many written and unwritten rules of a society. Consciously as well as unconsciously, the child starts following those rules.

So far, there is no problem. The problem arises when the writing on the board becomes primary and the board becomes secondary. Slowly, the child starts identifying with the writings to the extent that he loses awareness of the potential of the Board to rub and rewrite. One gets too attached to the writing on the Board and confines one's existence to the writing. Not only that, out of ignorance, he starts identifying others also with their writings. The soul-to-soul connection gets lost. The purity of a parent-child relationship is no longer there in other relationships.

Can we see the people, we form relationships with, beyond their writings. Each one of us lives with our own writings? We are conscious of just a small portion of these writings. While living, we absorb so many experiences unconsciously and the conscious mind is not aware of many such writings on the Board. In the process, we keep judging people based on their writings. In fact, we hide many of these writings, consciously or unconsciously, to get a few brownie points. Thus, we start pretending. A computer is programmed with the machine language but on the screen, a different interface comes. The programmed software is like the writing on the board and the interface is like the self-image we create to pretend to be someone. We maintain the self-image that we portray to society and want society to confirm it. We feel that helps us survive better.

However, in the process of strong identification with the writings and self-image, we compromise our souls. The soul keeps crying for freedom. Since we get disconnected from our own world, there is no question of connecting to the images of others. The relationships become shallow. Only self-image to the image of others. When two persons come close, sometimes they try to read each other's programming going beyond the interface. Most of the time, the inner programming of a friend has so many shades which do not conform to our self-image. Either we confine our relationship to the interface in such cases or we become selective. 

It's quite rare in a relationship that two people go beyond the interface and the programming and connect to each other at the level of the soul. Once that happens, it becomes the most beautiful relationship in this world. Such relationships are based on true love unadulterated by the interface or the programming. Such relationships have the capacity to set the soul free. When such free souls connect to each other, the most wonderful relationships get formed. 


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