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Compassionate Parenting

During our sessions at different schools, we talk to the kids, learning about insensitive parents who are so driven by their limited frame of life that they do not hesitate to kill their own kids' dreams. Every child is different. His soul has a different journey. Children wish to explore this world in quite different ways, which may differ from how their parents have explored the world. However, most parents are so insecure that they end up killing the dreams of their kids to ensure the perpetuity of pleasures. 

It is so shocking to see that we sell our dreams so cheaply. In a country where people did not bother about their lives for the freedom, we have become slaves of our pleasures, and more than that, our mental stories around the pleasures. Parents have such a limited vision of the reality of life. More than the limited vision, they are so reluctant to open up to reality. Even more surprising is that they force that limited vision on their kids by defining their life purpose so narrowly. How much would the young kids resist? They too settle for the narrow vision of life and join the race. By the time they enter their 40s, they become tired of the race and come to realize that they have been cheated. However, by that time, they already have their own family and kids, and responsibilities, and feel trapped in the matrix. 

Why can't parents accept this reality and allow free space to their kids to explore? Why can't they admit their own realizations that life is not about security or power? The best security systems in the world make us equally unsafe. The most powerful people in the world are the most insecure. Why don't we understand the fundamental principles? The moment fear is the driving force of our life, whatever efforts we make, be it earning money or reaching powerful positions, at the end of the day, we are playing in the hands of fear. It is that fear that is driving our existence, and that is why fear would become stronger each day, with each of our actions. On the other hand, if we face that fear upfront, we realize what lies beneath that fear. We understand that fear is the outcome of our fixation on the body and mind. We understand the root cause of the fear is our false understanding of the self. The moment we get to understand "who am I", the fear vanishes. Death is just checking out of the body and entering into a new body. Unless we get to realize that reality, we may gather the whole of the powers and resources of the world and still feel insecure. That is exactly what is happening to the most powerful countries and people of the world.

It is only when we observe and understand reality that we stop chasing illusion. Then we live our dreams and explore this world passionately. We delve into the unknown because we are no longer afraid. We engage with fellow human beings free of our own biases and beliefs, establishing genuine connections. We cultivate compassion and empathy. This is when the force of nature manifests through us, leading us into a world of miracles and magic. We begin to understand how the forces of nature operate within our bodies, at both quantum and cosmic levels. We dive deep into the secrets of nature. Exploration is what makes our lives fulfilling. Unfortunately, parents often do not shed their insecurities by the time they become parents, inadvertently passing these insecurities and fears onto their children. I believe parents should simply ask themselves: "Has the worldly path of success and security made me or anyone I know happy? If not, how will it bring happiness to my kids?" Most parents accept the narratives of happiness sold in the market without scrutiny, purchasing them for their children and inadvertently creating a stressful environment where kids wait for the weekend to escape the pressure cooker of life. Needs are limited, and if children are encouraged to embrace the bare minimum from the beginning, they will not become slaves to money and will have a broader range of possibilities in making their career decisions. 

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