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Friends

Friendship is a very different relationship from the rest of them. This is one relationship that we choose. It is not imposed on us. We get few friends in our lives that connect to our souls. Such a connection brings magic to the relationship. I recently visited one of my soul mates along with my wife some days back and after interacting with him for a few hours, my wife commented that I talk the way he thinks. I was so pleasantly surprised to hear these words from my wife. That’s quite wonderful. 

When we get soul mates, we get complete trust. Such trust helps us open up to them. That allows them to work on us. Our mind and intellect are at loggerheads many times, and we are not able to resolve the conflicts since neither the mind nor the intellect listen to the testimony of the soul as a witness. However, our soul mate is always a witness to our actions and thoughts. Since we trust him, he stands as a witness and our mind and intellect start listening to his testimony. That does something wonderful to us. That helps the mind and the intellect connect to the soul.

 There is probably no point in time in my life when I am not grateful to the divine for blessing me with such soulmates. Life is really amazing when you can speak your heart out with your friends and friends, like a silent witness, listen to everything, and ask the most relevant and sometimes quite difficult questions that agitate the mind at times. Yet the friend knows that these are just reactions of the mind or the intellect and he gives them a damn. After all, he is connected to the soul and knows very well that it does not matter. Even if the mind or the intellect reacts badly, and even if there is a fight, it has no impact on the friendship. That mutual trust allows the soul mates to examine together the contents of the mind and the intellect.

I always feel that the most precious possession in this world is the company of such good friends. I have few such friends with whom I can open my heart out. The honesty in discussions makes the time spent with them so precious. I cherish each and every minute of the time spent with such friends and always thank them and more so the divine to bless me with such pious company.

 I wish kids understand and appreciate the beauty and depth of friendship. It needs a lot of investment. Investment in terms of time. Integrity is the first and foremost condition. One needs to be quite open in such a relationship. If there is an iota of fear or doubt, there is no true friendship. Such a friendship requires complete transparency between each other. Many of my friends have chosen a very different way of life from mine. We respect each other’s way. Different ways of living have nothing to do with transparency. Transparency just demands that we do not fake our emotions or thoughts about them. If we feel that a certain thing is not logical or workable for them, we have the courage to tell that upfront. We always have compassion with them, whatever the circumstances. We always wish for their well-being.

 True friendships evolve on their own. They are not an outcome of efforts. When we connect to our soul, we automatically attract and get attracted to the beings who connect to their soul. That connection to the soul gives us strength to face our own reality.

 We are quite curious to examine the happenings inside the mind and the intellect. Friends examine this reality together. There is nothing mine or yours. Soon we understand that it’s the same movie playing on different screens. All the minds are passing through the same emotions in different forms and examining any one or the other reveals the same truths about them. All souls have the same ambition to manifest their potential through different minds and intellects. This friendship increases the fun of exploration manifold. 

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